Blue Rose

    I find that thinking about a potential present that will never happen is extremely toxic - a person wastes time thinking about things they could or should have done, but for some reason didn't, and then become obsessed with how things could have been different now, leaving them to mourn a missed opportunity that in reality might not have taken them in the direction they envisioned. It reminds me of most of these folk songs that are played on the radio where the singer laments about "lost love", wishing they could turn back time and be with that same person again, who in real life might already have a family and a stable life, probably leaving that relationship somewhere in the past. I have no doubt that this often happens in real life too, people remember old relationships (or friendships or whatever else) and then realize that this person was good to them but they didn't notice it (or the circumstances were such that there was a breakup/loss of contact), then the

        Smatram da je razmišljanje o potencijalnoj sadašnjosti koja se nikad neće dogoditi izuzetno toksično - osoba gubi vreme razmišljajući o stvarima koje je mogla ili koje je trebalo uraditi, a iz nekog razloga nije, i onda je opsedaju misli o tome kako je sada moglo biti drugačije, ostavljajući je da žali za propuštenom šansom koja je u realnosti možda ne bi odvela u zamišljenom smeru. To me podseća na većinu ovih folk pesama koje se vrte na radiju gde pevač ili pevačica žale za "izgubljenom ljubavi", želeći da vrate vreme i opet budu sa tom istom osobom, koja bi u stvarnom životu možda već imala porodicu i stabilan život, verovatno ostavivši tu vezu negde u prošlosti. Ne sumnjam da se to često dešava i u stvarnom životu, ljudi se prisećaju starih veza (ili prijateljstva i slično) i onda shvate da im je ta neka osoba bila dobra ali to nisu primećivali (ili su okolnosti bile takve da je došlo do raskida/prekida kontakta), onda počnu da žale za njima ili, u još gorem sluča